Have you been putting off something because you want to do it perfectly? Let me tell you this straight – the right time is now. There’s no such thing as perfect. You see, what may be perfect in your eyes may not be in anothers’. As a perfectionist, you’ll strive to satisfy not just yourself but also those around you. This will only cause heartbreak.
When you are a perfectionist, you beat yourself up for not being good enough. You compare yourself to others and procrastinate out of the fear of failure. I’ve been there, I know it.
Perfectionism is not only a personality trait but a lifestyle, one that you can never really keep up with. It is draining and demanding. As someone who is learning to recover from it, it’s better to shed your need for doing everything perfectly.
That being said, as a recovering perfectionist, I’ve learned a few things and I’m sharing those with you today. Perhaps knowing these will help you, too.
1 – Perfectionism is a useless race that constantly keeps you stressed and anxious.
Science acknowledges that perfectionism is linked to a number of psychological disorders including social anxiety disorder, headaches, insomnia, bulimia, depression and more. Your need to be better than others, to be perfect, can never truly be fulfilled.
And as you try to do all that you do perfectly, you will constantly stress about it in attempt to make it better. Is the result worth it? Not really. Which is why it is better to just leave this race before it becomes a lifelong marathon.
2 – Ditching perfectionism has taught me to look at the good side of things.
As I’m learning not to constantly compare myself to others and not focus on the results but the process, I am more positive. Sure, occasionally I do struggle to look at the entire picture and still focus on the results.
But then I tell myself that just because the process of doing something didn’t yield in what I wanted it to be, doesn’t mean that it was worthless. At the end of the day, experiences are what we should strive for and be proud of, not end products.
3 – Perfectionism only kept me from being my best.
Perfectionism is an obstacle in the path of creative thinking. In the chase to look perfect, behave perfect, and make perfect things, I have only delayed good things for myself. The fear of failure at being perfect kept me from making new friends, trying new things, and just going ahead with my plans.
Not only have I lost opportunities due to this attitude but also relationships in which I could have been better had I not been trying to be perfect all the time. Because perfectionism doesn’t only affect you but those around you as well.